Wedding consultant Michelle from A Dream To Call Your Own is back on the blog today discussing wedding attire.
Personally, I have seen a lot of “interesting” attire choices at weddings I have attended over the years, I can’t imagine what Michelle witnesses regularly! I decided to ask her if there was such a “thing” as attire rules for weddings, since wedding season is here! I received a most definite, YES!!! Classic, traditional and simple style and colour selections seem to be a great rule of thumb but what NOT to wear is even more critical.
Here are Michelle’s simple rules of what to choose and what to avoid when you are a guest of someone’s special day…
In the past, the general rules of wedding attire consisted of no black or white. Simple right? Black was seen as dreary, as well as dark and white… well that is just self-explanatory. However, times have now changed. You CAN wear white pants after Labour day…winter white suits anyone?! You can also sport your favourite Little Black Dress to a wedding! Yay!
One of the most common questions that I have many people asking me is…”What is appropriate to wear to a wedding in 2015!?!”
As a wedding guest there are a few simple rules to follow, to help make your decision.
The bride’s colour is white (or off white)…not yours. Mind you some brides are ok with guests wearing white, I had a guest or two wearing white to my wedding and to be honest with you I was too busy and excited to notice! However, in my days as a wedding planner, some brides are NOT ok with it. I know it may sound like a bit much but I have been requested by a bride to let a guest know that she was upset that a guest chose to wear white to her day. To avoid upsetting the bride, (after all you are there to celebrate the couple right?!) it’s best to avoid wearing solid white or ivory. The bride should get to stand out on her wedding day and can do this by being the only one wearing white.
Try (as hard as you can) to not wear the same colour as the wedding party. This will help you to not feel as though you are trying to be a stand-in bridesmaid. J Trust me, it’s almost happened to me as a guest and I was SO glad that I had a back-up dress in my car!) If you don’t want to bring a back-up asking the bride or the groom well in advance what colour the dresses are is an easy way to avoid this! Trust me, they will appreciate the question and are not bothered by it at all! Remember, even if your husband is in the wedding party, best not to match his tie and pocket square with your dress colour or you may find yourself in this situation. There are many other colours that will match well with the bridal colours so that you do not clash with your date.
Watch your hem lines and do not test out new fashion forward ideas! There is a time and place for all fashion however someone else’s wedding is not the place to show off your how do I say it properly… assets (no matter how cute you think the best man is!) Also, not the most appropriate time to strut your new $350 jeans either. Generally, the couple’s wedding invitation will dictate how formal a wedding is going to be! When in doubt, it’s best to be overdressed than under-dressed so make sure that you are wearing enough material or that you have not dressed too casual for the occasion.
A Rule for the Men out there!
Avoid wearing a tuxedo as a wedding guest. If the couple desires you to be wearing a tux, they will be asking you to! Generally tux’s are reserved for the groom, groom’s men, fathers and grandfathers of the bride and groom. If the wedding is a black tie event, wanting you to wear a tuxedo or white dinner jacket, it will be again indicated on the invitation. In addition, it’s also wise to avoid matching your tie/bow tie to the wedding party’s attire. The same rule for men applies. If your lady is in the wedding party, it’s best to avoid wearing the same colour tie as her dress. When in doubt, just ask your lady, I guarantee you, she will know what colour the groom’s men’s accessories are!